We weren't planning to start a family when we did. In fact, we kind of stumbled into family life. He was in law school, and I was in nursing school. And although we knew we were good together, we certainly didn't anticipate marriage, a baby, two graduations, a board exam, and the bar exam- all within the span of a couple of months.
We were swirling around in big life changes and it was intense to say the least.
My world came crashing down when I discovered my husband had been silently struggling to keep up with all of this change- hiding in the throes of addiction. He self-medicated to the point of giving himself a Grand mal seizure two days after our daughter was born.
And I had no clue. No clue he was suffering. No clue he was hiding.
I laid there with my newborn in my arms, post surgery, screaming for help as my husband thrashed on the hospital floor, turning blue. I remember so clearly looking down into my baby's eyes, and in an instant I knew, "I've got to pull it together- for her." This was my initiation into motherhood- vulnerable, raw, terrifying- as birth and motherhood often is.
It was the most confusing and traumatic experience of my life. And the weeks, months, and years that followed continue to reveal to me my own fears and controlling patterns that needed to come out of the shadows and into the light.
I had the medical training, over a decade of holistic health education and experience, and a solid upbringing as a Christian. I also had a strong sense of how things 'should' be that created a lot of inner conflict and unrest. But there is no substitute for walking our own path, and discovering our own truth in the messiness of real life.
Through our journey of healing as a family, I am discovering that I can be confident and calm as a mother, even amidst uncertainty. I am also imperfect, real, and human. I'm a lifelong learner and will always be on this path of self-discovery, but through our challenges as a family, I have found my inner wise woman and a resilience I could only have discovered by going through what we've been through.
Today, shame has no hold on us. Love and acceptance have opened the doors to our healing. I am no longer afraid to sit in the dark because I know the light in each one of us is bigger than that.
Now I'm here to support you in discovering your own inner wise woman, your own resilience and health, and the confidence that lies dormant underneath the confusion and overwhelm of modern motherhood.
HAVEN WELLNESS COLLECTIVE
As a nurse, wellness coach, massage therapist, and parent, I believe families need more support now than ever to live healthy, joyful lives. With so much information to navigate and so many threats- both real and perceived- to our emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health and wellbeing, it’s no wonder many of us feel overwhelmed, anxious, fearful and disconnected.
I have invited you to be part of Haven because I know you are already on this journey and you are already doing so much for your family. I also know that, like me, you wonder if it’s really ever enough. How do we protect and nurture our families without being an angry ball of stress ourselves? How do we find peace in the process of making changes that take time? How do we continue to show up for the various roles in our lives when we’re so dang tired and overwhelmed? When do we get the space for ourselves for the renewal we all so desperately need?
Healing happens in relationships- with ourselves and with each other.
Haven is a 3-month group coaching program created to support, encourage and guide you in your unique relationship with your health. Each week we will focus on an aspect of your health and wellbeing and we will dive deep into what it means to be well in today’s complex world. Haven is an opportunity to integrate the heaps of information we are inundated with on a daily basis to move from knowing about to actually practicing wellness in our families and communities.
The foundation of our work together will be integrating self-care and self-nourishment so we can show up in our lives with energy, patience, focus, and strength. We will explore the concepts of Rest, Movement, Nutrition, Environment and Connection for ourselves first, and then in our families. Haven is safe space to wrestle with these concepts and move towards action and integration in our lives. Our group will be limited to 10 women.
You will receive:
Private Coaching session with Brandie to get clear about where you are and where you want to go
Integrative Health + Wellness Assessment to discover your key focus areas
Weekly email on Monday with a Mindfulness practice for the week
A group call on Sunday to get focused on the week ahead
Resources to support you in healthier sleep, stress resilience, play, better nourishment, and a healthier home environment
Monthly haven gathering with a guest speaker, giveaways, and opportunities to connect with like-minded women
Access to customized rituals to support your self-care
Who is Haven for?
Haven is for women who are ready to dive deeper into who they really are.
Haven is also for women who:
feel lost amidst the demands and expectations of modern motherhood.
have recently been diagnosed with a thyroid, adrenal or metabolic condition.
are feeling tired, overwhelmed and anxious too much of the time.
suspect there is a better way, a different rhythm, and are ready to discover it for themselves.
have recently had a baby and want guidance and connection to navigate this new season.
My hope is that you will emerge from Haven feeling centered, strong, and well. I created this program to add more clarity, focus, structure, and fuel for your wellness.
What is the time commitment?
january 8th - march 30th 2018
Discovery Session with Brandie - 45 - 60 minutes
Initial Integrative Health and Wellness Assessment– 20 minutes
Weekly Email – 5 – 10 minutes
Weekly Sunday group call 30-45 min
Daily Practice (varies)